wethinkwedream:

you can be brave slowly if that is the pace you need to go at

(via puppycommander)

humansofnewyork:

“I had the idea for a book right after I graduated from law school.  It’s a series of novels about superhuman professional fighters, like what the UFC would look like in the Marvel Universe.  I’d love to create an entire world like Tolkien did for Lord of The Rings. But right now it’s mostly just notes on my phone and computer.  I’ve had goals in the past, but not like this. I’ve never sunk so many hours into something. It’s become a very core part of my identity.  It’s like an application that’s constantly running in the background of my mind. Everything I see, I apply to the story.  The bridge behind me reminds me of the entrance to the main stadium, which is a sculpted archway of past fighters climbing over each other.  The book gives me a reason to explore more.  I’m taking long walks.  I’m looking deeper at things.  And I’m especially paying closer attention to other people.  It’s the only way to create believable characters. I have to think hard about the lives of people I meet, and the circumstances that made them who they are. So even if nothing else comes of the book, it’s made me a better person. Just having the goal has forced me to grow.”

(Source: humansofnewyork)

denisvileneuve:

There is a reason this is the last scene in which Okoye appears before the credits roll. It speaks volumes about the power black women possess. Seeing anyone, let alone a black man, submit to a black woman on screen in this way is a rarity.

Gurira thinks the message in that scene is vital for everyone, especially women and girls.

“You expect to use your love for me and our love for each other to actually get me to betray my nation, and I would kill you first. I love that,” she said. “I think women don’t often get to portray that sort of nobility and that sort of integrity, especially [choosing that] over their love.” – Danai Gurira on The Scene™

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babyanimalgifs:

Never gets old

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octo-lemon:

nietp:

nietp:

i wish some people would realise that *destroying the nuclear family* means the liberation of woman as a class, the destruction of heterosexuality as the material base for the categories of gender, communal parenting, decentering romantic relationships as the only space for happiness, freedom, and spontaneity, etc… and not like……. being part of a fucking polycule and pressuring people who want to be monogamous into having sex they’re not comfortable with

#also: theres nothing wrong w being poly but #there is and has been a lot of discourse abt how being poly is obvs so much better than monogomy #and involved in that is pressure to be polyamorous when one is not comfortable with it #especially from str8 men to their partners @thuringvvethil

This is literally all i’m talking about, and people in the tags of this post talking about similar experiences confirm I’m not making this up. Please examine the discourse created around polyamory, and how damaging it can be on a personal level to be told you’re a reactionary for not being polyamorous (you’re telling people who are hurt by misogyny and homophobia that the blame is on them for not choosing the progressive enough way to love and have sex), and how inefficient it can be when it comes to actually changing the conditions we live under (you’re pretending individual lifestyle choices can actually fight capitalism and the heterosexual economy). Stop building your identity around the fact that you’re objectively better and more progressive than everyone else and wrapping it up in woke language. Capitalism can and will successfully absorb your individual choices no matter how revolutionary you think they are. 

Yeah, agree. But also there are different types of polyamory and some are predatory and others are really not at all. In the polya community we call them “Unicorn Hunters” or men who want “One Penis Policies” and there is soooo much discourse within the community about it (mostly off of tumblr but yeah).

Basically polyamory is defined by the community as “ethical” nonmonogamy and there are large polya groups that make people who call themselves polyamorous, yet act unethically, unpack all their shit. I see it happen all the time and it’s great.

Said communities also discourage comments about how polya is better than monogamy and have monogamous people in the space giving feedback.

But of course there’s going to be pockets of Unicorn Hunters and shit encouraging each other because they don’t want to unpack. I find ALOT of tumblr has all the toxic “polyamorous” people hiding from self-growth.

I find people new to polyamory are more likely to have the “polya is better than monogamy” mindset because they’re still so insecure. I find persecution complexes among polya people on tumblr to be especially rampant, which is really annoying.

So OP’s post does have a point, but really pertains mostly to a specific type of “polyamory” from what I’ve seen in my 6 years in the community.

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radycat:

reference

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yourbigsisnissi:

Before you get mad at your partner for not doing what you expect them to do, Stop and ask yourself “have I ever communicated to them that I have this expectation?” If you have not, it’s unfair to expect them to read your mind.

So many arguments are saved by just opening your mouth and saying “hey hun, in the future can you….” Whether its articulating how you like to be loved, supported, or communicated with, you have to open your mouth. Your soul mate (IMO) isn’t the person that just always knows what you need when you need it without you telling them. Your soul mate is the person who hears your needs and thinks “I have no problem doing that because I love this person with my whole heart”

So check your attitude and open your mouth. Closed mouths don’t get fed.

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thepersonalquotes:

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cacti-tea:

Just come to my ask box and tell me stuff about yourself. Your pets. Your favorite music. What you had for breakfast this morning. Literally anything you want, I love making new friends

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